Decide.

Hey you. Yes, you right there. The mom reading this blog. Can we be honest for a sec?

It’s easy to drown in the sea of motherhood.

Motherhood is beautiful, it’s fascinating, it’s exhilarating. It’s also awful. Every mom, despite her telling you otherwise, has once lost herself to the sea of motherhood. I’ve been lost, I’ve gone into the sea four times. I stopped doing anything for me but, lived only for everyone else. Each time I’ve lost myself, I’ve had to dig further and further to find ‘me’again. Who am I? Did I grow through what I went through? Do I even remember who I am?

Decide.

Decide today to live 100% authentically. If you are lost at sea, exclaim it! I am lost, but I will find myself. Do you hear the expecatations from society resounding in your head? Screw the expectatinos, create your own! Where are you headed? Decide. Do you only want to be a mother? Decide. What do you want out of your life? Decide!

I want to be a blogger, so here I am. I am fighting my way out of the sea. I’m expected to want to be home 24/7. I am screwing those expectations and I am a working mom, proud of it! I am headed to becoming my authentic self. What I truly want and need to be. More importantly, where I want to be.

Progress.

Becoming your authentic self, fighting your way out of the waters does not happen over night. It may not even happen in a year. You must focus on the progress. Today, one hour. Tomorrow, one day. One thing at a time. You know the saying, “Rome was not built in a day”, well neither were you. You took nine months (give or take) to make a child or two. You gave up all of you, so when recreating yourself, when finding yourself allow yourself time.

When you aren’t sure of you’re progress, when you’re feeling blue. Look back. Remind yourself of where you’ve been, where you’ve come from. Are you a step ahead of where you were? An inch closer to where you’re going?

Your progress is not measured in distance, or by the expectations of others. Instead, your progress is measured by your own willingness to move forward until you are authentically you.

Xo, Sabrina.

Motivation Monday: Consistency.

Happy Monday! Are you groaning because it’s Monday again? Who said Monday’s have to be so bad? Turn your frowns upside down and let’s talk about your Monday Motivational – Consistency.

Success does not come from what you do occasionally. Success comes from what you do consistently.

Let me tell you what makes my Monday’s great. Want to take a guess? It’s consistency. Whether it is a day off Monday or a work day consistency makes a huge difference for me. My routine for work days includes the following:

  • Wake & Rise 3-330 AM
  • Work Out 330-4 AM
  • Shower/Freshen/Leave – 4-420 AM.

I know that this routine to others is astonishing. Who willingly wakes up at 3 AM? Shall I remind you, I have newborn twins. Getting up and working out is my only “me” time.

My days off are just slightly different. I’m still the first to wake in the home. I need that time to myself.

  • Wake & Rise 5-530 AM
  • Work Out 530-6 AM
  • Wake Girls/Start Laundry/Hot Coffee 6 AM
  • Wake Boys/Begin Day 7 AM

I’m not here to tell you that waking up early is easy. In my mind, that’s a complete lie. There are several days where I just don’t want to get up. However, it’s important to me to have time to myself. It’s important to me to invest in myself in order to have a better day. It’s important to me to be consistent.

There are several ways consistency can improve your day, and I mean every day not just Monday’s. Meal prep is a consistency that makes each day easier. Daily rituals, devotionals and more can make you a happier person.

You see the common theme here right? Now let’s talk about a different version of consistency. “New Year, New Me” – Nah, same year, same me – NEW adventures!

Do not live the same year 75 times and call it a ‘life’.

Robin Sharma

I’ll say it again, same year, same me – NEW adventures. You can still be consistent while living new adventures. Can we be honest here? It’s February already and I have yet to have an adventure. Unless you consider trips to multiple doctors adventures, ha! My goal for February is at least one family adventure, and that scares me. But, even if I take the adventure I will still be consistent in working out, making Monday’s great and enjoying our time off together.

Be consistent in taking time for you. Be consistent in adventuring. Be consistent in living a life worth living. Be consistent in making memories. Whatever you do, just be consistent!

Happy Monday!

Xo, Sabrina.

5 Minute’s Of Mom’s Time

Hey Mama, I know how you’re feeling. You’re probably just like me. You feel stuck under the weight of your family, you feel like you do everything for everyone. You know you do nothing for yourself and to be perfectly honest, you’re fed up with it. This blog post is for you.

Mom Problems

Unless you’ve been a mom (adoptive, foster, etc included), you just don’t get it. The problems we have aren’t truly problems. Instead, those problems are babies, toddlers, children and big kids all tugging in their own direction because they know they’re safe with us. It’s not a problem because we’ve adapted, we’ve survived whether they are one day old or eight-teen years old, we’ve survived. And, if we did it right, so did they! The problem is the way we’ve adapted. We’ve been taught by years and years of influencing that mom’s are last. We eat last. We bathe last. We care about ourselves, last. You’re nodding your head in agreeance here, aren’t you?

Since we know we’re last, we must be creative in our ways of “growing”. I’ve found a few ways to fit personal growth into my day, sometimes in just five minutes! I want to share these tips with you, my fellow mom. Why? Mostly so we don’t kill anybody, but also because we all deserve to water our own flowers and let them bloom!

So, You Only Have 5 Minutes.

Baby stop screaming for just a minute? Oh, he’s been sleeping for five minutes? Let’s get you some quality YOU time.

#1 – Warm your cold coffee and sip away. Take this time to reflect on how your morning went. What could have gone better? What can you do to make the day better?

#2 – Have a journal? Jot down your thoughts. Was the baby overwhelming today? Are you working towards a specific goal? How are you doing on sleep?

#3 – Phone-A-Friend. It’s hard not having any adult interaction! Feeling like you need a quick chat? Phone a friend and say hello! Most likely, they need the call just as much as you do.

#4 – Step outside for some sun. Have you been outside today? If not, step outside. Let the sun warm your face, close your eyes and take a deep breath. If you’re like me and live in the country, enjoy the silence. It’s a beautiful thing.

#5 – Eat! Quick, while you can, grab a snack! Are you hiding the Girl Scout cookies from your family? Go grab one and enjoy it. Want a healthier option? You go girl, eat that apple! You don’t have to share with anyone.

#6 – Rejuvenate your skin with a quick wash-off face mask. Close the bathroom door, start the shower for some steam and enjoy your live-in mini-spa. When the five minutes is up, wash it off and go about your day.

#7 – Read your personal development book. I gave you my favorites in “Why Reading Self-Development Books Is Key To Personal Growth”. Pick up your favorite and read as much as you can in that five minutes. Alternatively, you can finish a personal development activity such as writing down your goals.

#8 – Listen to a Podcast. There are hundreds of podcasts available! If you have an iPhone, head over to the podcast app. If you have Spotify account, you have access to several hundreds of quality podcasts. Find your niche and press play!

#9 – Pick up around the home. Something bothering you around the home, take five minutes and focus on just one thing. Tidy up and you may feel instantly better.

#10 – Just sit. Yeah, I said it. Self-care includes relaxation. May you browse Facebook, scroll through Pinterest or envision yourself successful .

I have more than five minutes.

Say what?! If you have more than five minutes to yourself a day, you can certainly expand on any of the above tips or you can dive into more.

What’s helped me the most when I have more than five minutes is to plan out my day. I use a physical planner to record what’s for dinner, my daily workout, my work schedule and so much more. It’s been really helpful in holding myself accountable. Heck, this whole blog post was planned out.

At the end of the day, the only thing we want for you is to win. Whether that means vegging out, or building yourself up.

Xo, Sabrina.

You Can, You Will.

Yes, it’s Monday again! Yes, it’s the beginning of the week and I can hear you moaning and groaning all the way from here. We’ve already discussed jump-starting your Monday and how to do it. If you’re choosing not to do that, it’s fine. Please understand that this is a mindset! This is you vs. you.

You Can.

Wake up! There has been a great awakening to brain health in recent years. Brain health is of utter importance when speaking of diseases that are age related such as dementia and alzheimers. While we don’t know exactly what causes the diseases, we do understand that your brain’s health is directly linked to overall health. Furthermore, your physical well being is just as important as your brain health. This is where you must put your “mind over matter”. Your brain is known to trick you. When you don’t want to do something, your brain is willing to say “ok, we won’t.” Instead, we need to push past the brain. You can do this, you want to do this.

One way to push past your brain’s game is to create a daily mantra. A mantra is a saying that you are able to repeat and hold on to when the going gets tough. A good place to start is “I believe I can, I decide I will”. When your struggling to get of bed, instead of hitting snooze, repeat your mantra. When your struggling to breathe in the middle of a workout, trick your brain and repeat your mantra. When you just want to quit because the scale isn’t moving, REPEAT YOUR MANTRA! You absolutely can do this.

You Will.

When your at your wits end with your body or lifestyle, you’ve decided to change. We’ve discussed that you can change, but how will you implement this change? It’s simple really, you must be prepared.

You will….start small. Change is not meant to be large. Change is not meant to be all at once. Instead, change is small. Start with one item to change. Start with water, drink more water starting today. Set a definable goal tomorrow, 100 oz of water. Smash that goal, and add another. You can do this in triumphant style and spread your success, or you can stay quiet and create your success on your own time.

You will…create a routine. Routine is necessary if you’d like to stay on track with your change. Starting a routine is difficult. For many people, writing down a routine is easier to remember than simply trying to follow it. This is where calendars, reminders and planners come in handy. For example, if you are a by the hour type of person writing down what hours you need to do specific tasks is helpful. For other people, simply writing out a list of items to do, in no specific order is more helpful.

You will…be prepared. You will set yourself up for success! Lay out your workout clothes, set your alarm clock, meal prep! All of this preparation is aimed towards your success. If you are unprepared, your routine, your goals and your success will quickly be unraveled. I know it sounds extensive, it sounds hard. Again, this is a mind over matter situation. You can and you will!

You will…continue on. Consider this, each day you are one step closer to your goal so do not give up today! If you need a break, that’s fine but remember your nutritional goals. If you need a break from nutrition, have a cheat day but keep it to one day only. Whatever you do, you must continue on!

If today is your starting point, hit today with a BANG! If you’re in the middle of your journey, make it worth your time. If you’re nearing the end of your goal, make new goals and SMASH them!

Xo, Sabrina.

GERD& Chiropractor’s.

Do you have a happy spitter or a true reflux baby? That’s the question I’ve heard over and over again. If you have a ‘happy spitter’, you simply have a laundry problem. However, if you have a reflux baby you truly have an ‘issue’. Let me preface this with, it is not our first rodeo with reflux. So, let’s get started!

Happy Spitters

Did you know that every baby has some form of reflux? This is due to their underdeveloped GI systems. However, there is a large difference in types of reflux. Most babies are happy spitters. They spit up, sometimes a small amount other times a large amount. The consistent thing about happy spitters is that they’re never in distress due to the spit up. Instead, they happily go about their day. There are no weight gain issues, there is no severe pain and they continue forward.

Reflux

Reflux is a bit more complicated than happy spitters. Reflux involves a larger amount of spit up and possibly has pain associated. Many reflux issues are related to formula intolerances or allergies. Some reflux issues are resolved by a simple switch of formula, from one to another. Additionally, some reflux is resolved by medication such as Zantac. Zantac is a H2 blocker, or a histamine blocker. It’s meant to give relief by blocking naturally occurring histamines to reduce stomach acid.

GERD

GERD stands for Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease. GERD is actually a disorder of the lower esophageal sphincter. The sphincter usually controls when food comes into the stomach and it should not allow food to come back out. However, with GERD the sphincter can become loose and allow the stomach acid and contents back into the esophagus. This can cause an extreme burning sensation and other symptoms. GERD can be controlled with medications, diet change and more. However, for infants GERD is much harder to control which sometimes leads to Sandifer’s Syndrome. Sandifer’s Syndrome is a whole body response to pain due to reflux. Sandifer’s makes the infants body stiffen, usually to one side this reflex to pain often looks similar to a seizure. While it can be scary, there are serious side effects from Sandifer’s.

When it comes to our history, like I stated before, this is not our first rodeo. Ten years ago, I went through the same issues with Andi. Andi was not as bad, but she was diagnosed with reflux and Cow’s Milk Protein Allergy (CMPA). Additionally, she had a soy intolerance. Andi’s reflux was controlled with formula (Neocate) and meds.

On the other hand, Dax is a much more complex case. Dax requires a large amount of care including medications. However, inn the spirit of making sure he is at least pain free we’re willing to try almost anything.

Reflux and Chiro.

In our endless effort to make our guy feel better, we came across chiropractors as a relief for reflux. I read countless articles, including medical journals that showed relief. So began our quest to find the right chiropractor for Dax.

I found a total of two pediatric chiropractors in Tucson. Both yielded good reviews, one better than the other. I found Switzer Family Chiropractor to have more reviews and a more inviting phone call. I scheduled an appointment and awaited anxiously for the day to arrive. That day came on 1/14. Upon arrival, the chiropractor was in the lobby. She hastily greeted me, explained the paperwork and even swung Dax in his carseat to ease his fussiness. I was shocked how gleeful the office felt, plus we were the only ones there! We immediately went back. Dr. Switzer first asked our background. She then set up her table, showed me how much pressure she’d be applying to Dax’s body and asked for permission. Before beginning with the chiro care, she cuddled Dax and made sure he was aware of her. Again, very impressed! The care was minimal, she hit pressure points on his lower back, his legs, his neck and jaw area. She checked for hiatal hernias and worked on his tight spots. You could tell by his responses in crying when it was uncomfortable or soothing. It didn’t take long, maybe twenty minutes max.

After the care, Dax was so hungry so I sat with him and fed him. Dax used to gulp bottles, I mean completley down a bottle in maybe five seconds flat. It caused a huge amount of projectile vomiting. Instead, Dax ate a bottle like a normal baby. WOAH! Huge difference in his eating. Did he still spit up? Heck yeah, but taking almost ten minutes to down a bottle is a huge improvement. As the night went on, we found more positive changes. He was no longer squirmy in our arms. Instead, he was more stretched out and calm. He went to bed easily at 8:30 PM and we did not hear a peep until 3:30 AM the next morning. HELLO SLEEP! We’ve missed you! The chiropractor had three goals for Dax by the end of the session. First, a relief from pain. Second, longer and more comfortable sleep. Third, a more routine pooping schedule. So far, we’ve hit two out of the three! Needless to say, we’ll be returning once a week for continuous relief. We’re so happy for our guy!

Xo, Sabrina.