Last week I authored two posts that gave our readers a general idea of what we’re up to this year. To recap we’re working on bettering our finances, improving our health and making memories. One thing that resounded in my mind is investments. No, not money investments I’m not on that step yet, I’m talking about investing in yourself. When was the last time you truly poured into you? Are you a mom and constantly tending to your family but never to yourself? Are you giving all you’ve got to your spouse and nothing to you? Are you giving more to your job than you are to yourself? If you’ve answered any of these questions with a “yes”, you’ll want to keep reading.
Lack Of Care
“…they have made me the keeper of vineyards, but my own vineyard I have not kept.”Song of Solomon 1:6
When I became a mom every one warned me. They said “you’ll have no time for yourself”. They were right. I didn’t have time for myself. When I had my second child at just nineteen years old, again they said “you’ll never be yourself again”. They were right, I was never that same person again. I had my third daughter just three years later and they said “you’re crazy, you’ll never have any money for yourself”. These common sayings infiltrated my mind, they resounded in my head throughout the next couple of years. I couldn’t stop thinking about all of the things that were said, it was worse when I was alone. So, I stopped caring about me. I put myself last and I made my kids first.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Your kids should absolutely come first but, consider this. How are you supposed to pour into your children the best of you, when there is nothing left of YOU? How are you to instill the best features of you, when you’ve hidden those features to serve everyone else? How are you to excel at a career if you are not putting your whole self forward? How are you to lean into your relationship if your only serving your partner?
It is not okay to commend lack of care. It is not okay to put ourselves at the end of the line, continuously skipping ourselves for the sake of others. It is not okay to give our children our unkept selves. It is not okay to pour into a career that does not serve us. We must choose to change or remain the same.
Invest In You
If you want to invest in something with minimal risk and a guaranteed big return, invest in yourself.
Read that line, are you finished? Good! Go back and read it again! Make this line your daily mantra. You are an investment. Heck, you are the longest investment you’ll have. There is no amount of time or money that could deter you from investing in yourself.
Investing in yourself looks different for each person. I invest in myself in several ways. When I first realized that I was pouring from an empty cup, pouring into my children the features I didn’t want them to have, I had to take a long hard look at myself. What did I need to do to pour into me? What did it entail? Was it nutritionally, physically, emotionally? For me, it was all of the above. Nutritionally, I was either not eating or eating like crap. Physically, I quit working out because I had “no time” to work out. Emotionally, I was unavailable to everyone, I shut myself in to avoid issues. The truth is I had no time to be this way. I have kids who depend on me to be the best version of me every single day. So, I started investing in me again. I found a workout program that worked for me. I found meal prepping that wasn’t difficult. I found the same 24 hours in a day that the rest of you have and I made time to invest in me. I made myself be vocal about my emotions and started looking for journaling, devotionals and other self-care aspects to ensure I was mentally well.
I’m going to repeat this…
Every one has the same 24 hours in the day. Make the time to invest in you.
You have to invest in yourself to pour into everything else. Stop emptying your cup to fill every one else’s. Fill your cup first.