Raising Boy’s.

Before our boys were born, I was blessed with three beautiful baby girls. Each girl presented their own challenges, but each provided a unique love. Andi brought me perseverance. Bree brought me growth. Caidence brought me self-love. Each girl made my life better, I progressed forward as a new parent and a growing person.

I never considered what raising boys would bring me. I didn’t ever think I’d have a son, let alone two sons. So, when the boys were born I wasn’t sure what I would feel. It was different when I had the boys, I’d never had a NICU baby, it was my first c-section, I wasn’t able to hold them right away. It was a disconnect. I couldn’t feel for someone I hadn’t even seen. Heck, I couldn’t even tell them apart in the pictures that were taken. I was promised I would be able to wheel by and see them on the way back to my room. I was wheeled on a bed, through a hallway. I got to see their incubators, I didn’t get to see them. It was an immediate disconnect from the two little men who had shared the womb. I worried if I would be able to love them. I wondered if they would even “know” me.

The disconnect didn’t last long. NICU was a magical place, full of amazing people who cared for my boys like their own. It was even harder when I had to leave each day, not knowing what they were doing or what was happening. I didn’t want to be a burden, so I would only call once a day. Once Dax came home, I was able to bond with him. It was a whole new love. When Emrick came home, it was undeniable. These boys were “different”.

There is nothing like the snuggle of your baby boy(s). There is nothing like the smiles. There is nothing like the boy(s) becoming a “mama’s boy”. He just loves his mama all that much. And maybe, maybe I’m crazy. Or maybe, maybe I yearned for a boy for so long that this love was always there.

Perhaps I’m not crazy. Perhaps you are a boy mom too, you’re reading this and feeling the same way. Raising boys is just… different.

Xo, Sabrina.

5 Ideas To Spark Your Weight Loss Goals!

It’s the beginning of the year, the second month of the year in fact, have you fallen off the band wagon yet? Don’t worry, according to a study done by Strava shows that January 12th is the date majority of people quit their resolutions. In fact, the study goes on to show that 80% of people who make resolutions do not keep them.

How about we put that statistics aside and focus on your goals? Here are 5 ideas to spark your weight loss goals!

# 1 – Water, Water, Water.

I can repeat myself over and over and over again. Drink your water. Seriously. Drink at the very least 80 oz of water. I aim for at least half my body weight in ounces every day. Water is an essential part of weight loss. Water is an essential part of the human body functioning. PLEASE DRINK YOUR FREAKING WATER. Also, if you’re asking why you’re not losing weight, check your water intake.

# 2 – Just 2 lbs At A Time.

Have a large weight loss goal? My long-term goal is over 30 lbs. However, I know that if I focus on 30 lbs even the smallest little weight loss will still be discouraging. Instead, try focusing on just two lbs at a time. You’ll be thrilled for each 2 lbs you shed off!

# 3 – Meal Prep.

Again, like water, be prepared. You want to meal prep so those work/school/etc vending machines do not tempt you. Meal prep doesn’t have to be extravagant. Pick a protein, pick a veggie, pick a small but, complex carb. You can even do sheet pan meals to make it easier! You can find all of my meal prep ideas on my Pinterest account under Meal Prep Central.

# 4 – Document Your Journey.

This is important. No one deserves for you to document your journey more than YOU. Use your journey as personal development. Why are you on this journey? How did you get to be the weight you are now? Be incredibly honest, raw and real with yourself. Keep it to yourself, or share it to the world.

# 5 – Stick To It.

Let’s say you’re on a roll. You’ve lost weight, you feel great, so you have a treat. And that one treat turns into another, then another and again, another. It’s important for you to stick with it. Treat, not cheat! Yes, you deserve that sweet treat for being consistent. But, ensure that you don’t cheat. When you do cheat, you are only cheating yourself.

Each month is a new month to be successful. You’ve got to grab life by the horns and stick to your guns.

Xo, Sabrina.

Stop Ending Your Sentences With “LOL”.

Ah, the age of Modern times. Want a habit to break in 2020? If so continue reading because I’m sure that you do this too.

We have to stop ending our sentences with LOL.

I was talking to a friend the other day. Explaining to her why I’m so frustrated, she’s a fellow HoH mom and she understood where I’m coming from. She listened to me vent. Here’s the thing… I ended almost every sentence with LOL. I wasn’t laughing. If you ask my husband, I was fuming. I was pissed, and rightfully so. How could an infant go from not hearing as normal, consistently, to passing magically as ‘normal’. I was not laughing, but at the end of each sentence I wrote LOL.

Why? Why did I do this? I was in the presence of someone who truly understood where I was coming from and why I felt the way I do.

We’re all unsure of ourselves.

That’s it. That’s the reason you end your sentences with LOL. We’re entirely unsure of ourselves, even when we’re in good company. We’re unsure of how that person will react. We’re unsure of how that person will view us after what we’ve said.

I knew my friend wouldn’t judge me for the things I was saying, I knew my cousin wouldn’t judge me when we talked about our twins. Yet, I was still unsure of myself, uneasy if you will.

Break The Habit.

It’s 2020 ya’ll. It’s time to cut the shit. Start being sure of yourself. Start saying what you want to say without the fear of reaction. Instead, embrace the reaction. If it’s negative, address it. If it’s positive, enjoy it. And if it needs to be talked about more, then do it! You live once, do you want to continuously live in fear of what others will think of you? Or, do you want to live authentically?

I choose to be authentic.

Xo, Sabrina.

Asking For Help.

It’s not a new idea that asking for help is a negative connotation. You shouldn’t ask for help, you shouldn’t seek assistance. You should stand tall, you should face things on your own.

I’m here to say, that’s wrong. You’re wrong. You’re wrong if you think you can face this world alone. You’re wrong not to ask for help when you truly need it. You’re wrong not to seek help to get out of your darkest areas and back into the light. The reasoning behind any of this, the reason you are not asking for help, it’s all wrong. You’re simply wrong.

Are you mad now? Do you think you can do it all on your own? I used to think that too. I used to think, “I don’t need any one’s help”. I was doing just “fine” on my own, even if my head was just above water. My pride was weighing me down, despite my sinking I still refused.

You have to swallow your pride.

You’re there in the middle of the ocean, drowning because you’re too stubborn to ask for a life vest. You’re even worse off because you refuse to appear “weak”, thus refusing a rescue. You’re simply treading water to move it, not to relieve the drowning. You’re pride is an anchor. You’re pride will continuously drag you to the bottom until you swallow it. So, swallow it. Be done with your pride and start to swim.

It’s okay to ask and to need help. It’s okay to fail, so long as you do not give up.

Okay, enough ranting for today.

Happy Thursday!

Xo, Sabrina.

Why Reading Self-Development Books Is The Key To Personal Growth.

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2020 – The Year of Growth! Are you on your own journey of personal growth? I sure am. 2019 was a difficult year for me, not worse than 2017 but still difficult. I put myself last in many ways and I still do, but 2020 is my year of growth.

One way I’m growing is by reading. My goal for 2020 is to read a book every month. Whether the book is fiction, self-help, self-development or simply for fun I want to read! I loved reading as a kid and getting back to reading is not only nostalgic but, great for developing minds.

When speaking of growth, I personally favor self-development books. What are self-development books, you ask? Simply put, this type of book forces you to develop a habit or trait. Take Rachel Hollis’ book, Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies about Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be. I’ve read this book and couldn’t put it down! The author was inspirational, funny and most of all relatable. That’s what every self-development needs, a relatable state to the reader. If you are unable to relate you are unable to grow. In this book, Rachel Hollis’ states that she is not asking you to change your life, instead she’s encouraging you to change yourself. More so, she provides witty banter to your excuses because she’s had them too.

Self-development caters to many different people. To the single mom, to the stay at home mom, to the leaders in the workplace, to the entrepreneurs and so much more, there is a book for just about every one.

So why are self-development books so important for personal growth? Most self-development books are able to challenge your mindset. Challenging your mindset, creating habits and altering your traits are all able to cultivate growth. Furthermore, there are several workbooks, journals and guides that are able to direct you towards growth.

Here is a list of a few books I recommend:

Each book is under $20 and available via Kindle/Audible! I can’t explain how important growth is. You are never going to be ‘perfect’ but you can grow and develop into the person you want to be. The books above this can help you tremendously when you are ready to grow!

Start growing, today!

Xo, Sabrina.