Spring Break Blues.

It’s mid-March and we all know what means…

SPRING BREAK!

Spring break could be glorious. For some families, they take trips to Disneyland or Disney World or they see family in other states. For us, at least this year, Spring Break brings the blues. Why the blues, you ask?

This year, we will not be going anywhere. I work 5 days out of the 7 days they are off. Zoram works 6 out of the 7 days they are off. Which means, no fun trips for us.. no special stories for them to tell when they get back to school.

As a parent, that last sentence there could be a killer. I know for me, not doing anything on spring break is killer! In prior years we’ve made trips to the ostrich ranch, little carnivals, Disneyland and so much more. I can’t do that this year. Will they hate me for it? Probably not. Will they be over it in less than a week? You bet’cha!

Parents hold on to memories, both bright and sunny as well as those that are dark and grey. Yet, when we hold on to those dark and grey memories we tend to beat ourselves up over them. And again, we compare our experiences as a parent to others Instagram or Facebook posts.

We must understand that we are enough. Are trips fun, of course they are! But, is dinner on the table enough every evening. Are your children grateful to see you come home after an extremely long day, yes they are! Let that resonate within you, YOU ARE ENOUGH.

XO – Sabrina

Putting Aside Your Ego.

Can we talk about ego’s for a sec? Not your puffed out chest saying “I am a badass,” but the egos we utilize to go against what we know isn’t best for us.

Take me for example… When I first started with my weightless journey, I was completely on my own. I knew I could do it by myself, I wasn’t sharing my journey or even talking to anyone about it. I just did it. So when I failed, I failed miserably and beat myself up for it over, over and over again.

It wasn’t until I found a tribe. You’re right, a tribe sounds “clique-y”. The saying rings true, “Your vibe attracts your tribe.” Without the group of like-minded woman I was invited into, I wouldn’t be where I am today. In fact, I probably wouldn’t be writing this post.

Today, I am on bed rest, not because anything is necessarily wrong. But, because I let my ego get ahead of my bodies needs. I took two days away from exercise after transfer day, and then hopped right back into my routine. I shouldn’t have, but there I was crushing it! I felt great after every single workout, some of my friends and even my coach said “you’re glowing!”. But, what they didn’t know.. Is that I was threatening to waste close to fourteen thousand dollars because my ego said “keep going”. So, now, I put my ego aside. I put it away and I reached out for help.

When I reached out at home, I found my kids sticking to my nutrition plan bringing me healthy snacks in my colorful containers, water, breakfast, lunch and checking in on me so much (sometimes too much, lets be honest). I’m really proud of them for stepping up to help out their moms and keep their baby brother(s) away from mama’s ego.

When I reached out to my tribe, I found support regardless of not being able to work out with them. I found them cheering on my non-scale victories (NSV’s) and checking in with me personally to see if I needed anything. I have found a group who enjoys me for me, and lets me come out of my shell just a bit more than usual.

Long story, not short – Put aside your ego to do what’s best for you. Even when it’s not what you “want” to do, you have to learn to listen to your bodies needs!

XO – Sabrina

IVF Background.

To those of you who have not been meticulously following my Instagram posts, we’d like to share a little background on why we’ve chosen this path.

Before Zoram and I ‘re’met, I had already had three beautiful girls. Each of those girls during my pregnancy caused a little more problems. Finally, on my last child, my OBGYN advised it wouldn’t be safe to have another child. She suggested tying my tubes. At the time, I was all for it because who doesn’t want to never take birth control again. HELLO ladies, come on! I tied my tubes and I didn’t think I would ever look back. And I didn’t, until he came along.

When he came along it was like everything changed. My girls loved him, we had great conversation and our relationship was thriving. There has been only one point in our relationship in which we almost split. His dream was military and children. My dream was no children, and I wasn’t ready to be in a long distance relationship. That difference in wants and desires took us two days to work through. But, we did it. His love for the military continued but his desire to go changed once he bonded with the girls. My desire to have children however, remained unchanged.

It wasn’t until we truly were all in to the relationship that the idea of fulfilling his needs became a desire. Zoram has no children of his own and it wouldn’t be fair of me to ask him to never have children, so we both made a sacrifice. We looked into IVF for months before deciding, and when we decided we moved quickly.

After our wedding in December, we realized that if we waited too much longer our desired age ranges would be a little skewed. We didn’t wait, and here we are three months into our journey, waiting until Tuesday to come so we can actually know if we’re pregnant or not.

There’s so much more about IVF that we would love to share, and we’ll dive into that soon.

XO – Sabrina

Can’t Pass That Moment.

Let them eat cake.

Marie Antoinette

For the past week, my husband has been attending night classes for his job. He hasn’t been getting home till about 9:30 – 10:00 PM. To no surprise, I was also working two of the days he was working which meant I wasn’t getting home until 8:00 PM. Which as you I’m sure you can imagine left almost no time to spend with the kids… Luckily, I have two days off in the middle of the week and Daddy has class for just one more night…

Why am I telling you this? Because on the way to school this morning, my daughter from the back seat asked a simple question. She asked, “Can we have cupcakes tonight?” Can you guess my answer?

Typically, in the middle of a school week my answer would have been a snort followed by a casual, “nope.”

Today, the answer was yes. It’s officially girls night on a school night. And let’s be honest. I. Don’t. Care. My girls need these little moments. They need the little fun, they need the cupcakes! These are moments in which I can’t pass up. They grow so fast, and soon they won’t want girl nights with mom. Soon, they’ll be out with boyfriends (Yeah, right!). Soon, they’ll want to have sleepovers at friends instead of home.

I just can’t pass up that moment.

XO – Sabrina

Welcome!

Hello everyone!

Welcome to our newest site, The Regular Ruiz’s! If you’re new here, allow us to introduce ourselves. Our names are Sabrina and Zoram Ruiz. We have three children: Andria, Breelyn and Caidence.

We wed in December of 2018 after two years of dating. What’s even crazier is, we’ve known each other since we were toddlers in pre-school! Thanks to our best friend’s wedding we reconnected and a relationship flourished soon after. Thankfully, we haven’t looked back since.

This blog is a reflection of us and our story unfolding. We want to share as much of our story as possible and that includes multiple aspects of our life. You’ll see that we have multiple areas available on our website for each portion we’ll be sharing. These include our IVF Journey, my coaching business, nutrition, fitness, and more!

While I, Sabrina, am the primary writer..You’ll see a bit of both of our personalities shining through! We can’t wait to bring you along, so let’s get started!

XO – Sabrina