5 Minute’s Of Mom’s Time

Hey Mama, I know how you’re feeling. You’re probably just like me. You feel stuck under the weight of your family, you feel like you do everything for everyone. You know you do nothing for yourself and to be perfectly honest, you’re fed up with it. This blog post is for you.

Mom Problems

Unless you’ve been a mom (adoptive, foster, etc included), you just don’t get it. The problems we have aren’t truly problems. Instead, those problems are babies, toddlers, children and big kids all tugging in their own direction because they know they’re safe with us. It’s not a problem because we’ve adapted, we’ve survived whether they are one day old or eight-teen years old, we’ve survived. And, if we did it right, so did they! The problem is the way we’ve adapted. We’ve been taught by years and years of influencing that mom’s are last. We eat last. We bathe last. We care about ourselves, last. You’re nodding your head in agreeance here, aren’t you?

Since we know we’re last, we must be creative in our ways of “growing”. I’ve found a few ways to fit personal growth into my day, sometimes in just five minutes! I want to share these tips with you, my fellow mom. Why? Mostly so we don’t kill anybody, but also because we all deserve to water our own flowers and let them bloom!

So, You Only Have 5 Minutes.

Baby stop screaming for just a minute? Oh, he’s been sleeping for five minutes? Let’s get you some quality YOU time.

#1 – Warm your cold coffee and sip away. Take this time to reflect on how your morning went. What could have gone better? What can you do to make the day better?

#2 – Have a journal? Jot down your thoughts. Was the baby overwhelming today? Are you working towards a specific goal? How are you doing on sleep?

#3 – Phone-A-Friend. It’s hard not having any adult interaction! Feeling like you need a quick chat? Phone a friend and say hello! Most likely, they need the call just as much as you do.

#4 – Step outside for some sun. Have you been outside today? If not, step outside. Let the sun warm your face, close your eyes and take a deep breath. If you’re like me and live in the country, enjoy the silence. It’s a beautiful thing.

#5 – Eat! Quick, while you can, grab a snack! Are you hiding the Girl Scout cookies from your family? Go grab one and enjoy it. Want a healthier option? You go girl, eat that apple! You don’t have to share with anyone.

#6 – Rejuvenate your skin with a quick wash-off face mask. Close the bathroom door, start the shower for some steam and enjoy your live-in mini-spa. When the five minutes is up, wash it off and go about your day.

#7 – Read your personal development book. I gave you my favorites in “Why Reading Self-Development Books Is Key To Personal Growth”. Pick up your favorite and read as much as you can in that five minutes. Alternatively, you can finish a personal development activity such as writing down your goals.

#8 – Listen to a Podcast. There are hundreds of podcasts available! If you have an iPhone, head over to the podcast app. If you have Spotify account, you have access to several hundreds of quality podcasts. Find your niche and press play!

#9 – Pick up around the home. Something bothering you around the home, take five minutes and focus on just one thing. Tidy up and you may feel instantly better.

#10 – Just sit. Yeah, I said it. Self-care includes relaxation. May you browse Facebook, scroll through Pinterest or envision yourself successful .

I have more than five minutes.

Say what?! If you have more than five minutes to yourself a day, you can certainly expand on any of the above tips or you can dive into more.

What’s helped me the most when I have more than five minutes is to plan out my day. I use a physical planner to record what’s for dinner, my daily workout, my work schedule and so much more. It’s been really helpful in holding myself accountable. Heck, this whole blog post was planned out.

At the end of the day, the only thing we want for you is to win. Whether that means vegging out, or building yourself up.

Xo, Sabrina.

CareCredit + Walmart

Let me just begin this with saying, I am not affiliated with CareCredit or Walmart. I genuinely just want to share something that works for me.

When we first found out that our little embabies stuck, my intimate thought was preparedness. How much will we need of each item, and the double it for two! Diapers, wipes, formula and bottles all became top priority.

We started with diapers. Around the same time I had gotten pregnant, CareCredit rolled out the ability to purchase health and wellness items at Walmart and Sam’s Club. As someone who was working on rebuilding my credit, and this being the only credit card I had I found my niche. CareCredit has the ability to pay for most infant items. So every other week, I’d stop in at Walmart and buy a box of diapers and a box of wipes. Then, I’d make a payment on my card keeping the balance to a minimum. Did this help me? Heck yeah! Not only did I see my credit score raise steadily but I built up a stockpile.

Unfortunately, I didn’t get to stock up on much anything else due to bed rest and the boys coming early. However, what I was able to stock up on is coming in handy! We have lots of diapers and wipes, and when you’re wiping the butts of two you know you need them!

What’s next? I’m going to continue stockpiling every once in a while, but I’m also keeping the balance low for upcoming dental appointments for my oldest. Additionally, the boys will have alternate needs in the upcoming months and we will bend to those needs.

Xo, Sabrina.

Guilty As Charged.

I know I’ve been talking a ton about the NICU but, the NICU is what our lives revolve around for now. So, I’m not sorry. If I don’t write it out, I’ll hold it in and that’s not good for any of us. So, here it goes… another fun fact about NICU…

The NICU whether you’re there feeding, holding, changing babies…the NICU whether you’re home trying to spend time with your older children…the NICU regardless of your babies age, gender or how sick they are… leaves you feeling extremely guilty.

NICU guilt is so real. You feel guilty for being there. You feel guilty for not being home. You feel guilty for the hundreds of pictures you’re taking because then where are the pictures of your older children? You feel guilty just napping. I feel guilty for almost everything I do these days. Hell, I even made it through my first day of not visiting the boys and that, that was ridiculously hard.

Yesterday, what I felt most guilty about was the boys simply being born. I feel guilty that my body failed them. That I couldn’t hold them inside even for just two more weeks. Are they doing great? YES! But, if I had just held them in for two more weeks maybe, just maybe, we could have gone home without a NICU stay. I had heard so many stories from co-workers, I had read all of these articles online about making it to just 34 weeks. And I couldn’t do that. The guilt kicked in pretty damn hard this morning when the nurse offered to take our first “family” photo. We aren’t a complete family in this picture. Not to mention the pure exhaustion that shows all over our faces. Am I grateful we have a memory? Of course I am! I just don’t want to show the girls because they’re struggling too.

Now, before you start commenting and giving me advice let’s talk about something. The guilt I’m feeling is so similar to grief. It comes in waves, crashing in to me. I drown for a few minutes and then I come back to the surface, bury it back down and continue on with my day. Grief hits me the same way, especially when it comes to my dad. Like grief, you can tell a person, “I’m so sorry, I know how you feel, let me know if you need anything”. However, none of that helps. I’m not asking for help because right now, I have it covered. I’m not asking for sympathy, I just want to get this out so I’m not constantly drowning. And most of all, every person who has either experienced life in the NICU or that of having a child who has experienced sickness such as cancer, experiences this differently. Kindly, we don’t know how we each feel but, hell yes we can relate.

If you’re a new to NICU mom, here’s a few things I like to do to relieve the guilt.

  • Call Any Time. The NICU is full of nurses and doctors who completely understand that you can’t be there 24/7. They don’t mind when you call, they’re happy to answer questions and they’re there around the clock. If you feel too guilty, give them a call!
  • Take All The Pictures. Take the damn picture! This journey is unique, and documenting it..the good, the bad and the ugly is beneficial.
  • Find An Outlet. For me, my outlet is this blog. I get to keep a digital notebook so to speak about our boys journey. This is my way of letting it all out, to complete strangers, to family, to friends, to anyone reading this right now.
  • Rest. I know, I know. I’m contradicting myself. I rest… I promise I do. But, between pumping, insomnia and my girls there’s almost no time to sleep. However, rest is essential to your well being. Rest mama. Trust and believe you’re baby is in the best hands.

There’s no better feeling than knowing that eventually my boys will be home, until then I’m going to ride out all of this guilt. I’m going to use this blog as my outlet. I’m going to spend time with my girls (thank you fall break!) and I’m going to enjoy my boys in the evening this week. The guilt may come every single day, but my mom strength is year round!

XO, Sabrina.

Building Credit While Preparing For Twins!

Hey y’all!

I wanted to do a short little blurb about an awesome new find that’s going to help me rebuild my credit and be prepared for the twins. Before I begin, I am in NO way paid for the following. I truly just want to share this with others who may be able to use it to their advantage.

At one point in my life, I had great credit. Hell, I bought my first house at 21 years old. I wasn’t about to let anything stop me. Expect maybe my big head…I got my hands on credit cards and when times got tough, I turned to shopping. Of course, as young and dumb as I was despite my bills being paid I destroyed my credit by utilizing too much. So here I am, 7 years later, attempting to rebuild it.

Which lead to me Care Credit. I only recently found out about Care Credit when Andi had to get teeth pulled. We tried doing it without putting her under, and despite her bravery we couldn’t get past numbing the gums. But putting her under cost double if not triple the amount upfront. The dentist advised me about Care Credit and I got approved much to my surprise. That approval paid for a decent portion of the tooth pull and made it easier on my checkbook. I took each payment and returned it on time, and saw my credit score jump!

Now, not to long ago Care Credit and Wal-Mart/Sam’s Club paired up to allow card holders to purchase specific items from stores. These include baby care such as diapers, wipes, and medications. Feminine care, adult vitamins, prescriptions and so much more.

Which means I can buy a pack of diapers and wipes every pay week and pay the card down at the same time! Leaving me the ability to also purchase a $25 gift card each paycheck for “extras”. I can’t tell you how excited I am about this!

XO – Sabrina

8 Week Bump-Date!

Happy Sunday!

Today is our 8th week bump-date! Yay, we’ve made it 8 weeks! It’s also my first day back on night shift…and we will see how that goes!

What’s new this week?!

Well first off, we have arms! Yes, the boys have developed arms. This upcoming week we should have placenta development, and possibly some movement at our next ultrasound.

I still have days in which I don’t feel pregnant. And I also have days where I feel overwhelmingly pregnant, like today. Every food makes me nauseous, every movement is exhausting, and I honestly just want to go back to bed. None the less, our hope is the pregnancy continues to develop well.

So far the pregnancy has been ups and downs, mostly ups. I’ve noticed this pregnancy has made me much more nervous and panicky about losing the pregnancy. I’ve pondered this, perhaps it’s because of Zoram wanting to have his own bloodline. Or, maybe it’s the amount of money we’ve invested into the process. Either way, every day I don’t feel pregnant I’m in a mini panic!

I’ll admit I’ve gone shopping for some maternity clothes, dresses and such. I have noticed that this pregnancy has made me feel quite bloated at times and jeans cutting into my stomach makes me feel even more miserable. So if you catch me in a dress, just know it’s out of comfort not for style.

Additionally, Zoram picked out a color for the boys nursery… he needs to move boxes and what not out of their first, but okay. I’m glad he’s really on board for this pregnancy and is involved so much.

That’s all for this week! Make sure to check in next Sunday for our 9th Week Bump Date! We can’t wait to see what the ultrasound reveals.

PS – Babies are now the size of kidney beans (with arms)!

XO – Sabrina